Thursday, June 11, 2009

"Why Why Why?"

This week I had two people ask me how to get closer to God. One person, (my mom), stated that it simply just left her. I told her that it was more about her drifting away. The world gets so busy and eventually distracts us. We don’t have time to even sit and enjoy our coffee before it gets cold anymore. Our world is dominated by worldly distractions and if you’re lucky enough to have spare time to sit, meditate and focus on God, then you’re the luckiest person alive. Another friend, (which I will not disclose her name) asked me the same question, however her faith and background is of a different religion. Circumstances and trouble came crashing in on her, leaving her depressed and distant from God. In general terms, so that our faiths didn’t clash, I suggested that she should do some breathing exercises with visualization and focus in on “God” - aka - meditate. It’s much simpler to use breathing exercises than refer to meditate, because sometimes people get funny with that term. Too “zen-like” and cooky for some.

Last year this time, I was in a really bad place - place being my mind, my heart - I was hopeless and almost lost faith in God. I accused God of not listening to me or answering my prayers. The thing was: the prayers that I prayed were not of God’s will. They were selfish prayers that would have put me in a much deeper downward of a spiral. Sometimes, be thankful for prayers not answered, because we might get what we “want”....not what we need.

“We can be confident that he will listen to us whenever we ask him for anything in line with his will. And if we know he is listening when we make our requests, we can be sure that he will give us what we ask for.” -1 John 5:14-15

How can God be present when there is so much bad in this world? How can God let this happen to us? How can all these terrible things, like the shooting at the Holocaust Museum by a very hateful man happen, or all of these awful school shootings by some isolated and rejected teenage kids come to pass while God is still watching over us? Is He watching over us or does it come down to simpler terms: God gave us free will and the freedom of choice? The truth of it all is that there is good and evil in this world. We need both. Without them, there would be no purpose for it all, no challenges to overcome successfully, as well as no reason to come to God. Without tribulations, some people would never get to even know God. We’d live in a world of no worries, no troubles, no adversities or hardships. Things would come too easily for us. Everyone would live equally as one and wouldn’t need to better themselves. We wouldn’t need God.

Why are we here?

However, even if things are going well, God still wants you to come to Him. And mind you - it’s not like you have to be some religious zealot rambling on and on all throughout your life talking about “religion”. In fact, religion is just a bad word to me. I’m human and if you met me in person you’d think someone else had written this post. I’m “real”----I don’t pretend to be some high and mighty spiritual being. In fact, I’m hardly that. (As most of you already know!) I’m just trying to get closer to God myself and maybe have someone relate to it all. I make mistakes and do things that God may disapprove of. Sound familiar?  These things are why some people are scared to seek God. Thoughts like, “Well God won’t talk to me because I did this or I did that”, can have you distance yourself even further away. Most religious people who “pretend” to be good are usually the ones who are hiding a whole lot.   And, who are we to judge, right? We all fall short. God wants us the way we are. He wants us to come to Him - not pretend to be somebody else. Do you think God won’t notice we’ve changed our entire being just to pray to Him? Think about it: God sees all. He knows what we do every second of the day so why wouldn’t we come to Him “as is”? He accepts you more than you think. Be real.

“Because of Christ and our faith in him, we can now come fearlessly into God’s presence, assured of his glad welcome.” -Ephesians 3:12

We worry about the purpose of life and what it all means, when we really should just be focusing on how to do it better the next time around. Our troubles make us stronger, which enable us to make better choices for the next challenges ahead. I stopped trying to figure God out and decided to have him figure me out instead. It just works better. I’m done asking, “why why why” and have begun accepting all the things that come swinging my way - whether good or bad.

Truth be it, science will always contradict religion and spirituality. There is no scientific evidence of “faith”. Blind faith is what some people call their “truth”. If your mission is to try to figure it all out - you’ll be like a fish trying to understand algebra. It’s impossible. Why do you think our world is disrupted with so many wars? Most of it are holy wars. Nothing is proven and nothing is concrete. You can try to debunk it all you want but without faith, and more reliance on the world and scientific evidence, your soul will constantly scream out, “why why why”?

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will direct your paths.” -Proverbs 3:5-6

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10 Comments:

Blogger paz13 said...

Deb: None of have the answer to the why.

I often think of John 3:16, "For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten son, that whoever believeth in him should not persih, but have everlasting life".

Kevin

June 11, 2009  
Blogger Sometimes Saintly Nick said...

I find it strange that when I am stressed or have problems to overcome,the first thing I give up is my spiritual disciplines. And then I "feel" as if God has abandoned ME.

Deb, here is a story (you know how I love to tell stories!) that I have told in more than one sermon:

"I lost God. I didn't know it, but I had lost God. I thought that I had misplaced God until I suddenly realized that I had walked away from God.

"Suddenly I heard God whispering my name. I realized that God was right beside me, but I couldn't answer. I knew that God was going to rebuke me for ignoring God. I was afraid.

"Finally, with all the courage I had, I replied to God: 'Yes, LORD, I am here.'

"And God simply said, 'I love you.'"

June 11, 2009  
Blogger Real Live Lesbian said...

Thanks for posting this...

I needed to hear it with the busy-ness that is my life lately. I think I may need to breathe. :)

June 11, 2009  
Blogger Just_because_today said...

"I stopped trying to figure God out and decided to have him figure me out instead. It just works better." What a great lesson.
We dont know why, I just know that there is gotta be evil to appreciate the good.

Striving to be better human beings - as hard as that may be at times - is the best way to feel closer to God.

June 11, 2009  
Blogger Xmichra said...

I don't have anything to say here (not really a post for opinion) oher than i enjoyed reading your thoughts and hope you are doing well (I have been slack this week from distraction!!lol).

June 11, 2009  
Blogger the walking man said...

This one thing I know: God is not the author of confusion nor the bringer of hate and death. It is when I see these things all around me that is when I breathe easier and move closer to the only buttress against them; God.

June 12, 2009  
Blogger Deb said...

Paz: For me, that’s exactly what I believe, John 3:16, however for many people it may be different... I totally get that. But even to just meditate and practice praying to whoever they worship is such an amazing experience. But you and I are on the same page. Thank you!

Nick: I love it! And that’s just it. My mom keeps telling me that “it left her”, when all along it has been right with her. She just needed to acknowledge it. And of course I always love your stories, Nick! Thank you so much! :)

Real Life Lesbian: Thanks for stopping by! Hope it helped. :)

JBT: That’s just it - we strive to be better humans but sometimes it is very difficult to be “perfect” or expected to be on a certain spiritual level when we are just trying to do our best.

Xmichra: Thank you! I have been very distracted this week too, which is why my comments back have been minimal. I read them all, but to respond is sometimes like writing a post... :) The comments you guys leave always teach me something new.

TWM: That reminds me of the saying, “Fear is not of God”, ----thank you for giving me that reminder. :)

June 12, 2009  
OpenID mrwriteon said...

As St. Augustine said, first you believe and then you can question. Such a fascinating blog that I want to go back and re-read later because you open so many questions.

June 12, 2009  
Anonymous Dawn said...

How did your mother respond?

June 13, 2009  
Blogger Deb said...

Thanks, Mrwriteon.... "Believe without seeing". True faith!

Dawn, I think it may be coming back to her, not sure because she's sort of shy sometimes about it...but when she was sick a long time ago, she became a born again Christian -I mean - big time. She said "she lost it" ----and that she doesn't feel like that anymore - she wants it back. She gave me a like 20 pages of proverbs that she dreamt --not even ones that were already written, to which she now gave to me. I will eventually use them in here. She said she just woke up with a new proverb every morning and each one is really inspiring...

June 14, 2009  

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