Thursday, June 05, 2008

My Short Lived Resignation

Inevitably, you knew I’d be back like a bad case of acne during PMS. Although my short lived resignation to this blog was supposed to be permanent, I have way too many thoughts and questions that flow through my mind, to which I need answers and opinions to. I initially quit blogging for a short while due to stressful circumstances in my life that left my mind absolutely blank. I had nothing to give. I had no thoughts. My mind was shut down. During my break, I’ve been writing short articles for a local magazine (freelance) and at times, posting them in my own personal blog periodically on Myspace. I guess I’ll start this blog off once again with an article I had written a few weeks back.

"Lesbian Bed Death & Cheating"

Why are some people so quick to analyze everyone else’s relationships except for their own? Even if they’re single, they still have a strong opinion, which is even a worse case scenario. I think we all know what we “should” do or what a relationship “should” be like, however no relationship is perfect by any means. If you expect a passionate and 100% understanding relationship that is equal on both sides, then you’re in for a rude awakening. Hey, I’m not saying it’s not out there – I’m just saying that it’s hard to find and eventually that 'perfect steel beam' of perfection will eventually wear down from time-to-time. Is it fixable? In most cases, yes. That’s up to the person who has the house built with those steel beams. Will the owner fix it?

I recently came across an article in this month’s addition of Curve Magazine about LBD (Lesbian Bed Death). This upsets me a great deal because they focus on LESBIAN bed death. I mean, I know many heterosexuals that are chewing on ice and waking up with morning wood. Why are we just focused on the lesbian community not getting some in the bedroom? Can’t we safely say that all of us are at risk for BD (bed death), gay or straight? Baffles me. We’ve pigeonholed ourselves into this category of sexually deprived lesbian women.

Another gripe of mine would be “one” of my male friends (names will not be mentioned), who constantly hints about having a fling or throwing sexual innuendos at me. Is it flattering? Sure. The only thing I don’t get is when a man hits on a woman (lesbian) and who is already in a relationship. They don’t view it as “cheating”. Even “some” bi-sexual women don’t view having sex with another woman cheating. It’s sex with another person! Doesn’t that qualify for cheating? If you have an opened relationship like that, then fine. But call it as you see it: infidelity.

Sometimes I really believe that there are a lot of people who view homosexuality as being promiscuous, which would explain the holy rolling bible thumpin’ peeps who constantly tell us we’re going to hell for having sex with the same gender. Meanwhile, back in many ranches, there are tons and tons of heterosexual people having premarital sex.

We’re all doomed.

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14 Comments:

Blogger Lisa Campagna said...

Yay, Deb's back! I'm glad! :-)

June 05, 2008  
Blogger DaBich said...

Hooray, you ARE back :)

As for your article...perfect relationships DO NOT exist. Some are better than others, but being human, we are not perfect, therefore our relationships are not perfect either. The SMART ones work at making their relationships they best they can.

Cheating is cheating, no matter what pretty label you put on it. It's called rationalization if anyone tries to kid themselves into thinking otherwise.

Welcome back, Deb! HUGZ!

June 05, 2008  
Blogger ~Deb said...

Thanks, Lisa! I'm back and rambling once again. :)

Dabich: Thank you! :) Nice to be back.

You said, "...The SMART ones work at making their relationships they best they can."

Key words: the best they can. That's all that we can do. And if one or the other cannot accept 'the best' of what one offers, then it's never going to work. I totally agree! Thanks for broaching the subject with your own view and personal opinion.

June 05, 2008  
Blogger Flip Flop Momma said...

i knew u couldnt stay away from me long.

June 05, 2008  
Blogger D.B. Echo said...

AAAAAAAAAAAAAGH! I JUST moved you into my "Blogs On Hiatus" Category! I was checking to make sure I didn't fumble the link before I removed you from my "Blog Links" list, where you have held the coveted bottom (most recently added) position! Now I've gotta remove you from the "Hiatus" list!

I was just thinking of you when I did a post on rainbows a while back.

http://anothermonkey.blogspot.com/2008/05/rainbow-over-nanticoke-may-22-2008.html

That was how you first found me, through a rainbow post, remember?

http://anothermonkey.blogspot.com/2007/07/rainbow-in-striped-air.html

Welcome Back!

June 05, 2008  
Blogger Amy said...

Awesome...glad you are back, I missed you.

June 05, 2008  
Blogger ~Deb said...

Flip: We’re connected to the Myspace hip – are you kidding?

D.B.: I wonder if there’s a category for “lesbo archives”? I’m glad you didn’t put me in the trash so fast! You’re the best! I’m gonna trek over to read your articles. Thanks for stopping in!

Amy: Awww…! I’m glad I’m back too. Now I get to annoy you more often! Hope you & your family are doing well.

June 05, 2008  
Blogger Jeff B said...

Your views have always been passionate and well thought out. I'm glad you've decided to share them with us once again.

Wouldn't it be nice if society realized that problems affect us all, straight, gay, bi...

Lables are always so damaging.

June 05, 2008  
Blogger ~Deb said...

Thanks, Jeff! That's nice of you to say...

I totally agree with you on the labeling part. I hate being sucked into a catagory.

June 05, 2008  
Blogger SJ said...

Welcome back I couldn't stay away fro long either :)

June 06, 2008  
Blogger Sometimes Saintly Nick said...

It’s wonderful that you’re back, Deb! No, I didn’t know that you’d be back, but I certainly hoped that you’d return!

June 06, 2008  
Blogger jennifer said...

I wrote a long comment here and backspaced over it. I will simply say that I see what you are saying and I agree.

Matt Man suggested that I check you out by the way. I am glad that I listened to him.

Jen

June 08, 2008  
Blogger jennifer said...

Oh. And Bed Death was a new phrase for me. I found the title of this post intriguing! LOL.

Jennifer

June 08, 2008  
Blogger Ricardo said...

I would say that there is a stigma that gays and lesbians are just out to screw around in back alleys and underground night clubs but this simply isn't true and there are places like that in which a breeded like me can go for that.

There are lots of guys that have this strange fantasy of being with a lesbian. I don't know what it is but thye will focus on these women. My opinion, there's plenty of straight women to choose from so leave the Debs of the world alone.

June 09, 2008  

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